Robert Griffith | 18 June 2025
Robert Griffith
18 June 2025

 

Forgiveness is one of the most challenging commands Jesus gives. It goes against our instincts and it is not easy at all. Some wounds are deep. Some betrayals feel unforgivable. So how do we forgive when it hurts?

First, understand what forgiveness is – and what it isn’t. It’s not excusing sin, pretending it didn’t happen, or instantly trusting someone again. Forgiveness is choosing to release someone from the debt they owe you. It’s saying, “I will not carry this bitterness.” It’s an act of faith.

Jesus modelled this perfectly. On the cross, as He was being mocked and crucified, He said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” (Luke 23:34) He chose love over vengeance.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean you forget, but it does mean you let go of the right to retaliate. Romans 12:19 reminds us, “Do not take revenge… but leave room for God’s wrath.” Trust God to deal with the wrongs.

Sometimes forgiveness is instant; other times, it’s a process. You may need to forgive repeatedly. But each time you choose to forgive, you are walking in freedom. Bitterness chains you to the past – grace releases you to heal.

Forgiveness also blesses the forgiver. It softens your heart, deepens your relationship with God, and reflects the Gospel. We forgive because we’ve been forgiven (Ephesians 4:32). Our debt was enormous – and Christ paid it in full.

If you’re struggling to forgive, pray honestly. Ask God to help you. Talk with a mature believer. You don’t have to do it alone – but you do need to take the first step.

Forgiveness is hard. But it’s holy. And it’s worth it.

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