Robert Griffith | 1 November 2023
Robert Griffith
1 November 2023

 

Matthew 18:21-22   “Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.”

Peter must have felt so spiritual when he suggested forgiving someone up to seven times. After all, the rabbis taught that three times was sufficient. But Jesus shocked him when He responded, “No, not seven times, but seventy times seven!” That’s 490 times! Who could keep count of that many sins?

Maybe that was the point Jesus was trying to make. By the time you’ve forgiven someone 490 times, you’ve developed a habit of forgiving. The choice to forgive comes from a heart of love:

1 Corinthians 13:5  “Love keeps no record of wrongs.”

The forgiveness Jesus spoke of was never meant to be careless or shallow. Sometimes, we fail to forgive because we misunderstand what forgiveness really means. Forgiveness is a choice of the will. It isn’t a matter of feelings. No one feels like forgiving. It is a supernatural choice that is intentional and repetitive. Every time the hurt comes to mind from an offense, you choose to forgive again.

Forgiveness is not minimizing the hurt or living in denial that it didn’t hurt – or pretending that it’s no big deal. That’s another misunderstanding about Biblical forgiveness. The hurt is real, and the pain can linger.

Forgiveness is preventing the hurt from turning into hate and becoming a prisoner to bitterness.

If you’ve ever been deeply hurt, you know what I mean. You can easily become a victim and lose your sense of victory in Christ, living in self-pity and anger. God never intended us to live as a victim but as a victor! We can take the hurt to Jesus and say as He said from the cross, “Father, forgive them for they don’t know what they are doing.” Luke 23:34. God knows your pain and offers healing when you choose to forgive others, just as you have been forgiven in Christ.

One other misunderstanding about forgiveness has to do with trust. Forgiveness isn’t the same thing as trust. When we’ve been hurt, we can choose to forgive immediately, but trust may take some time to rebuild.

So how are you doing in the area of forgiveness? Are you holding on to some hurt? Make the choice now to forgive and release the pain to God. Let Him heal the hurt in your heart and release the offender to the God who judges justly.