Forgiveness is one of the most freeing – and most difficult – acts in the Christian life. It goes against every instinct to protect ourselves, to demand justice, or to hold onto pain. But Jesus calls us to a radical kind of grace, the same grace He extended to us.

When Peter asked Jesus how often he should forgive – suggesting a generous seven times – Jesus stunned him: “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.” (Matthew 18:22). In other words, there should be no limit. That’s not about enabling abuse or forgetting pain; it’s about releasing the grip that bitterness can have on our souls.

Paul commands, “Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” (Colossians 3:13). That’s the standard: not partial forgiveness, but full, unearned grace. We didn’t deserve God’s forgiveness, yet He gave it freely. Holding a grudge while accepting God’s mercy creates a spiritual contradiction.

Unforgiveness is a heavy burden. It steals joy, poisons relationships, and stunts spiritual growth. It may feel like power – but it actually gives control to the one who hurt us. Forgiveness doesn’t excuse what happened; it simply chooses not to let the pain define us.

Consider Joseph, who was betrayed by his brothers, sold into slavery, and wrongfully imprisoned. Years later, when he had power to punish them, he forgave. “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good.” (Genesis 50:20). Joseph saw beyond the offense to the sovereignty of God.

Forgiveness also opens the door to healing. It softens hearts, rebuilds trust, and restores relationships – when possible. But even when reconciliation isn’t safe or feasible, forgiveness frees us to move forward in peace.

Jesus, hanging on the cross, prayed for His executioners: “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” (Luke 23:34). That’s the ultimate example. Forgiveness is not weakness; it’s strength under the control of the Spirit.

If you’re holding onto bitterness today, ask God for the grace to let it go. It may not be easy, and it may take time. But in Christ, it is possible  and it is worth it. Forgiveness sets the prisoner free, and often that prisoner is you.